At an early stage in a relationship everything is in cloud 9. I first met my boyfriend when i was 24 years old, a good friend introduced him to me which we started as text mates. Nothing was in my mind but to enjoy life, enjoy being with friends since we were so young and free. Getting married was never an options since its too early to decide for that…
As years passed we were encountering problems but not really major. Relationship was still really not that serious.. We meet people from our work place who shows affection to us, i know thats normal but to the extent that you know your limitations, my boyfriend also admitted that he had a text mate and said he was sorry and that he already ended it. Reality check, i know those were just trials in our relationship on how far we can stand still and fight for our relationship but still marriage was not an option.
A decade after being in a relationship where everything is getting serious, confident enough even though we live 35 miles apart. I get to spend family occasions to his place, I always get invited to important family gatherings, same as with him, he gets invited if we have important family gatherings and every occasions. Both our family, relatives, friends gets used to our closeness and notice the absence when one is not around.
The pressure of the people that surrounds us asking us of any plans of settling down, and that we already have enough time getting to know each other, when suddenly something happened!
I caught him cheating! Confronting him why it happened, how it happened and from where is she? Then i knew they work just nearby so they often see each other. The moment that i caught him i informed his family that we are going to break up because of what happened. Now, everybody gets involved and confronted him.
I don’t know what to do, i don’t know what to decide and i cannot accept the fact that what i used to have a perfect relationship is not that perfect anymore. They already have closure and he assured me that it will not happen again and that he was sorry for what happened.
Six months after what had happened he decided that we get married next year , his siblings who works abroad are planning to go home next year, he already informed his family about his plans but i’m still undecided. I asked advice from my family, my Aunts and close friends and they advice me to marry him. Convincing me that everybody has a weak part, that as long as he is true to his words, then, we can surpass everything. It feels like i am caught in the middle.. I Don’t know what to do.
Lots of things comes to my mind like if i have to end my relationship with him, can i guarantee that this will not happen to my next relationship? If i marry him, will i regret it?
I tried to be rude, i tried to be insensitive, i insult him all the time, a million times of trying to break up with him so we could move on with our lives but he just won’t stop.
My thought: marriage cannot guarantee that he will change. Marriage won’t change everything. But, we can always try, give him another chance to fix things together. I know i also have shortcomings, we have each others differences.
Now, if you were on my part, what will you do?